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relationships
7 posts
I Want You to Want to Do the Dishes
i told s i wanted to be better. she said the solution is something i already know, i just don't want it badly enough. then she explained the difference between guilt and care, and it rearranged my week.
Aug 12, 2026
The Dialect of Depth
i used to test people. see how deep they could go on a first meeting, and if they hit a wall, they weren't my people. the wall turned out to be mine.
Aug 11, 2026
You Can Win the Argument and Lose the Room
some people leave every conversation having won it. and slowly they run out of people to talk to. a list of the habits that do it, kept mostly to check myself.
Aug 4, 2026
The Griefs That Don't Get Funerals
nothing died, exactly. so nobody brought flowers. fourteen griefs we all carry that never get a ritual, a casserole, or a day off work.
Aug 3, 2026
Flowers Are Not the Bare Minimum
the bar was supposed to protect people. somewhere along the way it became a wall. an argument for keeping high standards and still lighting up at flowers.
Aug 1, 2026
Intimacy Isn't Built From Time
in 1997 a lab made strangers feel closer in forty five minutes than most friendships get in years. the mechanism has four words, and everyone forgets the same one.
Jul 21, 2026
Small Talk Is the Runway
most conversations move sideways forever. what do you do, where did you study, oh nice. the skill isn't better questions. it's remembering there's a down.
Jul 14, 2026