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- Part 1 we keep solving the wrong problem on indian roads
- Part 2 in india, the biker is treated like the problem
- Part 3 we built a tax system that only catches the honest
- Part 4 we keep telling women to be careful
- Part 5 we let people buy their own clean air and water
- Part 6 we never learned to think, or to be seen
- Part 7 in india, care depends on who you know
- Part 8 you can't get justice, and you can't take it yourself
- Part 9 the hard conversation we keep avoiding
- Part 10 our cities give us nothing to do but spend
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The Ultimate Guide to Building a Production-Grade Node.js Backend in 2025
A modular backend with clear layers (types, repository, service, controller, routes), Vitest for fast tests, and modern choices like Drizzle or Hono. Updated for how we build backends in 2025.
What Mentoring College Students Taught Me About Myself
Two years after college I didn't write a single line of code professionally. I said yes to everything, hoping something would feel right. Now I mentor students, not because I have all the answers, but because I remember what it felt like to drown in options.
You Give Up, You Die
nimsdai climbed all fourteen 8,000-meter peaks in six months. above 8,000 meters his mantra is literally true. down here, it needs one more line: be reasonable about which mountains deserve you.
What Smart Actually Sounds Like
the internet is full of intelligence signals that mostly measure loudness. the real tells sit somewhere else: in how someone handles not knowing, being wrong, and other people.
You Can Win the Argument and Lose the Room
some people leave every conversation having won it. and slowly they run out of people to talk to. a list of the habits that do it, kept mostly to check myself.
The Griefs That Don't Get Funerals
nothing died, exactly. so nobody brought flowers. fourteen griefs we all carry that never get a ritual, a casserole, or a day off work.
Flowers Are Not the Bare Minimum
the bar was supposed to protect people. somewhere along the way it became a wall. an argument for keeping high standards and still lighting up at flowers.
I Want You to Want to Do the Dishes
i told s i wanted to be better. she said the solution is something i already know, i just don't want it badly enough. then she explained the difference between guilt and care, and it rearranged my week.
The Dialect of Depth
i used to test people. see how deep they could go on a first meeting, and if they hit a wall, they weren't my people. the wall turned out to be mine.
The Friend Who Stops Me Mid-Pour
i fall into people and vanish. i pour and pour until i can't remember what i liked before them. s is the first person who stops me mid-pour and asks: what about you, though?
our cities give us nothing to do but spend
i landed back in bangalore and asked the oldest weekend question. what do we do? every answer was a bill. this one is about the free places our cities forgot to build.
The Door Left Ajar
people tell you what matters to them. rarely in the words. usually in the weight. improv actors have a name for it, and indian dramaturgy named it fifteen centuries earlier.