Tag
finding your people
5 posts
The Dialect of Depth
i used to test people. see how deep they could go on a first meeting, and if they hit a wall, they weren't my people. the wall turned out to be mine.
Aug 11, 2026
The Door Left Ajar
people tell you what matters to them. rarely in the words. usually in the weight. improv actors have a name for it, and indian dramaturgy named it fifteen centuries earlier.
Aug 4, 2026
You Can't Interrogate Someone Into Vulnerability
i learned the ladder and used it like a drill. a friend called it. "this feels like an interview i didn't sign up for." carl rogers explains what i got wrong.
Jul 28, 2026
Intimacy Isn't Built From Time
in 1997 a lab made strangers feel closer in forty five minutes than most friendships get in years. the mechanism has four words, and everyone forgets the same one.
Jul 21, 2026
Small Talk Is the Runway
most conversations move sideways forever. what do you do, where did you study, oh nice. the skill isn't better questions. it's remembering there's a down.
Jul 14, 2026