Tag
connection
8 posts
The Dialect of Depth
i used to test people. see how deep they could go on a first meeting, and if they hit a wall, they weren't my people. the wall turned out to be mine.
Aug 11, 2026
The Friend Who Stops Me Mid-Pour
i fall into people and vanish. i pour and pour until i can't remember what i liked before them. s is the first person who stops me mid-pour and asks: what about you, though?
Aug 10, 2026
The Door Left Ajar
people tell you what matters to them. rarely in the words. usually in the weight. improv actors have a name for it, and indian dramaturgy named it fifteen centuries earlier.
Aug 4, 2026
You Can Win the Argument and Lose the Room
some people leave every conversation having won it. and slowly they run out of people to talk to. a list of the habits that do it, kept mostly to check myself.
Aug 4, 2026
Flowers Are Not the Bare Minimum
the bar was supposed to protect people. somewhere along the way it became a wall. an argument for keeping high standards and still lighting up at flowers.
Aug 1, 2026
You Can't Interrogate Someone Into Vulnerability
i learned the ladder and used it like a drill. a friend called it. "this feels like an interview i didn't sign up for." carl rogers explains what i got wrong.
Jul 28, 2026
Intimacy Isn't Built From Time
in 1997 a lab made strangers feel closer in forty five minutes than most friendships get in years. the mechanism has four words, and everyone forgets the same one.
Jul 21, 2026
Small Talk Is the Runway
most conversations move sideways forever. what do you do, where did you study, oh nice. the skill isn't better questions. it's remembering there's a down.
Jul 14, 2026